Younger brother is ashamed of me?

Back in high school (4 years ago now) I was a radical feminist plus really poor. My dad would wake me up for school, no lie, 5 minutes before the bus came. I would wake up brush my teeth and go to school in the ‘cleanest’ dirty sweatpants i could find. Often times I would throw my hair into a pony tail, not have time to even shower.
I didn’t care WHAT people thought of me I was at high school for the education and that’s about it. I was kind of a loser, but had a couple close friends.
…. anyways my younger brother by 2 years keeps bringing up ‘how i was an abomination to our family’…

He tells me that he’s so embarised of being related to someone like me, and that everyone in high school hated me because i smelled really bad. To put an analogy to it, I was like meg griffin from family guy…
My brother brings up how i was in high school everytime we argue (which is about every other day)…
Should I be ashamed of who I am??? I think that women are way too objectified, and that people just can’t deal with the fact that some women don’t really see the point in all the maintenance. If I can make my own money in society why would I really care about how a man sexually perceives me?

Anyways, I have changed my ways and I now shower, dress formally, and even get highlights. I am a college student right now who still lives at home with my dad, brother, and sister..
My dad refuses to give me any help with my college education, car payments, mobile phone bill. But he does give me a place to stay and dinner every night…
As a result of my financial situation I am now an exotic dancer. It helps pay for college and will hopefully get me through to dental school.. And the only reason I can afford to get nice clothes is because of my little bit of extra money( which i would rather save, but I have learned that image is totally everything these days)…
SHOULD I BE ASHAMED OF MYSELF?

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Comments

Ron

October 24th, 2010 at 1:27 AM

You’ve got relatively little financial support from your family (which may be a matter of inability rather than choice, I don’t know), so you’re working at a perfectly legal job to finance your own education. So long as you don’t start blowing guys for cash, I’d say you have nothing to be ashamed of, and quite a bit to be proud of. And I find your attitudes toward perception and objectification spot on.

As for your little brother, who ever gave a crap what their little brother thought of them? When you’re a successful dentist and he’s an unemployed loser you can tell him to get bent.
Iggy

October 24th, 2010 at 1:27 AM

Everyone has to do what they have to do, to survive in this world.
Darren J

October 24th, 2010 at 1:27 AM

We have our own paths in life to follow. Learn from your mistakes and make adjustments to improve your life. I see failure as an opportunity to begin again more intelligently. Sometime the biggest crosses we bear in life are the ones we make for ourselves. — Good luck.
kooks

October 24th, 2010 at 1:27 AM

If Meg Griffin reads this, she would feel so much better.
Lost_In_Fiction

October 24th, 2010 at 1:27 AM

"Should I be ashamed of who I am???" Maybe just a little bit. But only because there are other solutions than exotic dancing.

You need to contact FAFSA and work out some student loans. You don’t like how woman are objectified, yet now you are an exotic dancer. I KNOW you see the wrong in that.

My friend, you once stood for something powerful, and now you are letting go of everything you once supported. If you want to afford nice clothes, then swallow your pride and check out Salvation Army or your local thrift store. Set aside an entire afternoon and just go. Pick out A LOT of clothing your size, or near your size because who knows! You can find a lot of great stuff second hand.

Also, get applications for just about every possible store in your region. If you are an exotic dancer now, then you have absolutely no reason to complain about any other occupation, be it bagging groceries or cleaning up people’s messes at a restaurant.

Save. Your. Money. No eating out, no partying, let up on the hair-do’s, make some sacrifices.
Buy second hand. You can do this.

You are a smart, capable, powerful young woman. Don’t you dare let anything or anyone stand in your way. And so your family may be ashamed of you? PROVE THEM WRONG!
ozpy3

October 24th, 2010 at 1:27 AM

You have had it hard in a family that doesn’t expect a lot. You have done very well to make the changes you have, you have accepted that the only money you have is what you will earn. There is no shame in being an exotic dance. Stand tall, be proud, Tell you little brother to grow up. good luck
web_cam_recruiter

October 24th, 2010 at 1:27 AM

No, you shouldn’t be ashamed of yourself, but you are the only one can decide whether or not you are.

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